Admitting Fault Before God And Others

This is a work in progress.  It's like .0009% of what it will be... not a completed work.


 Peace Can Come At A Price

Thought note: Being to proud to admit fault can even make you think you're mad at the other person for what they've done, but subconciously (if you've pushed it that far back) you are actually upset at yourself.

If you're act of repentance is conditional upon someone else apologizing and making something right first, then it likely will never come to fruitation at all. This is seeking others to take the first step, rather than a desperate desire to restore fellowship with God and with man.

Steps to admitting fault:

I)  You'll never get there unless you DESIRE to be there... and to be free and at peace on the inside.  However, many people want to live in DENIAL of their misdeeds and conduct. 

1) They stay in an endless cycle of "Yes, but", "Yes, but they did this and it was worse", or, "they did this and it caused it".  They're complacent to live day-to-day never doing anything about themselves. 
2)  Even to truly remorse and repent before God without anyone else ever knowing... and moving on from there never enters into the picture. 
3)  These people can do no wrong; at least not compared to the wrong they feel was done to them. 

II.  As long as you feel justified in doing someone any kind of harm based on:

1) What you feel they did, to you- in general- to someone else.
2)  They did wrong and it's your job to teach them better.

You cannot move on, either.

III.  If you ever come to the place of utter despair over what you've done, and not just, "I might have been a little wrong", then that is where it begins for you.

1) Using discernment.  We all want to believe that it would cause more problems to go to someone and ask forgiveness than to quietly approach the altar.  There may be specific cases where that is true, such as if it's something someone did not know about and did not fruitfully harm them.  However most of the time, person-to-person contact is necessary.
2)  Not wavering after repentance takes place.
3)  Forgiving oneself.